Category: Goals
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Writers Write
“If you are tempted to look outside yourself for approval, you have compromised your integrity.” Epictetus Once upon a time, a little girl lived in her head. Her feelings and experiences were held inside, much like a Venus fly trap that draws inward its prey – after enough time has passed, whatever it was became…
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Santa Claus Versus Shang-Chi
The lie of unmanageability is that I can’t reach my goals because of time constraints or some other variable. My lower self has been prioritizing needs, then wants, then goals. In an artificial hierarchy constructed by my own feelings of inadequacy, I’ve willingly put my goals beneath my current reality instead of using goals to…
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The Spanish-Speaking Afghan Cook
“To avoid any negative attention, the cook from Afghanistan learned a few words in Spanish and pretended to be Mexican. He never actually told anyone he was Mexican but never corrected anyone either. Because of his thick accent, he remained as quiet as possible. He relied on the chaos and background noise of the kitchen…
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Eighteen Reflections on What I’ve Learned in Eighteen Years of Sobriety
Life will go on with, or without me. Whenever tragedy strikes, my energy is better spent thinking of others. Just because it feels like the world has stopped, doesn’t mean it has. Alcoholism, drug addiction, and trauma are all diseases of perception. All three work to kill its host by convincing them they aren’t afflicted.…
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I don’t want to brag, but….
“Besides, my expectations have been right-sized, and I now have something accurate to measure against. I may not be ready to share my story with the entire world; but I think I can handle 50 people.”
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Nobody Like Odysseus
“The more I strive for success, the more paths appear to take me away from what I originally set out to do. With each new variable met to assist my career, my goal of writing becomes diluted.”
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Becoming a Professional Writer…
“Last year I wrote “Become a professional writer” on my goal list. The first thing I did in preparation was quit my job under the premise that if I had no income, I’d be more motivated to make a living off my writing. Then I focused on defining myself as a writer and “author” which…
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Cleaning The Fish Tank
“A good question to ask now, why am I writing about my fish? The answer is simple, I need to clean the fish tank and I don’t want to so I’m writing about it. The reason however is more complicated.”
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The Power of the Unexpected High-Five
“The expectation of praise is a good to have as a toddler, as it means you have people invested in your success enough to be taken for granted. As we age, the expectation of praise becomes a bit more complicated as external expectations often cause profound unhappiness.”
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Condiments
“Goals have a way of growing our understanding, compassion, and empathy by aggressively smashing our old ideas and ways of doing things.”